You're required to love God and love yourself whether or not another single soul loves you. You have only one self and you’re required to love that self.
Living apart from Christ’s Life makes us dismembered parts of the Body. This way of functioning in the old life is like zombie functioning.
There is a big difference between a disciple and a believer. A man with selfish ambition is not a man in Rest, and a disciple knows this life is for the Son not the self.