In the past I have looked at relationships as if my God was miserly. I felt the need to extract from them as much as I could as quick as I could, because surely the Hand of God was about to remove them.
OK, I am a Christian, so why don't I have the right to make relationships like I want? Read about relationships for self vs Christ's relating through me!
For the Christian there are no true intimate relationships apart from being in Christ. When all of our relationships are in Christ, then all of our knowing is of Christ.