Love of Self Prevents Cold Love


I would like to circle back around to the topic of the loving of self. I feel like I have explored intently the issue of love grown cold and how destructive it is to ourselves and our world. But all this cold love stems from the absence of loving God and loving self.

Love of Self

Love of Self
The Word commands us, “You are required to love God and love yourself whether or not another single soul on this earth loves you. Further, you then love your neighbor as yourself.” This is not just a biblical truth, it is a living principle and reality. And I know that all biblical truths are, but sometimes we need a reminder that it’s actuality and not merely theology.

The fact is simply that I can’t love you unless I love myself. It’s only to the degree that I love myself that I will ever show you love. And if I don’t love God, forget about it. My life is vanquished. Our love for God is reflected in our love for self. How can I love the God who created me and not love what He created? I can’t! So if I don’t love me, it is probably a huge indicator that I don’t love God either.

This world’s cold love stems from a failure to love God and self. Our cold love is the byproduct of our lack of love for God and self. We build hatred against ourselves and for the God who made us. We hate our bodies, our weakness, our limitations, our story and we blame it on Him. And from this chilling state of hatred, we proceed to ice the world with cold love. Sure, we can be worn down by the endless parade of evil’s increase, but as I stated at the beginning of this series of posts, the love for self and God can thrive even in the worst circumstances. I can remain intact and whole because of my commitment to love on the stage that God has set. I love my God and the “me” He has created.

Cold Love and Love of Self

Cold Love and Love of Self
Cold love doesn’t happen externally first, because it isn’t a reaction to my circumstances. It is the reflection of my internal dearth of love. This is why we must remain committed to LOVE our God and self, and then stem the tide of cold hearts and cold love. I’m required to love God and love myself whether or not another single soul on this earth loves me. And with this commitment, I will see the God who is Love manifest mightily in my life.

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2 months ago

I should read this again and again. And again.

3 months ago

He has ‘FIRED’ it into us, His “Love Reigns”…only God, in spite of me. Everything in me weeps for the Joy of Him as I lay my face against His heart. Can we ‘ask’ even in such fury & be brought by Love to Rest in Him? My impossible…His piercing, pursuing power in Love. My life lay in a heap, despair, defeat, before i saw Reality…You Live Your Life in ‘me’. Loves stance & silence & stillness, a force even then, brought deepest cry in heart whispers, “Yes Lord”…yes to Who You Are, & who I’m not, & Who You… Read more »

3 months ago

John, I am so grateful for you and the LORD’s pursuit of HIS love to capture us. Yes, you have even spent time on this in the past, but I must need to be hounded by HIS love to correct and bring this need to love myself to the front of the battle. Your comments about how we can hate our bodies, YES, and we can also hate our lives. So again bless you for going so deeply into how important this is to the LORD and the new insight for me that it will bring in revival for the… Read more »