But I’ve Been Wronged!

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This season, like none other, feels like the heat has been turned up by God to boil out every bit of rights I think I have. If I ever thought I had a single right in this life, it’s being crushed and annihilated. I don’t say this in bitterness or with sour grapes; I’m just trying to come in line with the process that God is enacting. It’s like global warming for real! But the temperature adjustment is by God’s hand. He seems to be cranking up our levels of frustration, and I think I know why.

Microcosm and Macrocosm of I’ve Been Wronged

Microcosm and Macrocosm of I've Been Wronged My Rights
I want a use our websites as a microcosm example of my point, but the macrocosm expression of this is our whole world. Here’s the microcosm of where we’ve been wronged. I’m a little hot on this because I’ve been dealing with this all week, so sorry for any fumes.

Every internet development team that we’ve ever dealt with has repeatedly wronged us. From our initial updates to Web 2.0 all the way through to the present, we’ve been wronged. Promises are made, promises are paid for, and those promises are broken. The end result? We get the shaft. From trying to chase down web developers (while begging them to fulfill their commitments) to businesses just out right reneging on their obligations, we’ve been shafted. This all happens while they go to the bank with our money…smiling. It’s been a major source of frustration as well as a huge time suck. So why have we been wronged?

Been Wronged: Bits, Bytes, Money

Been Wronged: Bits, Bytes, Money and my rights
God is always interested in the heart of a man. Bits of data and bytes of memory have as much importance to Him as pieces of paper promising monetary value. Though I get completely worked up with injustices and broken promises, He doesn’t seem as disturbed. Why, God, have I been wronged?

You can take this scenario all the way to our current political conditions. Promises made, promises broken, we get the shaft. No one’s mind is changed and common sense is relative. Despite all the evidence to the contrary, we just continue riding down the rails on this crazy train. Why have we been wronged?

Wait for it…! Here’s the answer. Who is God? If I look to man to do what’s right, I will be sorely disappointed. And why is the sting so great? Because it ‘s idolatry. Man has never been, nor will he ever be, my source. I can’t, nor can any man, defend my rights—I have none. Scampering about maintaining my rights, like a squirrel socking away nuts, is foolish. It’s also foolhardy to think that any man is going to do right by me just because of my rights. I have no rights that God Himself doesn’t maintain. At the end of the day, God is my source, there is no other.

So does this mean I just lie down like a red carpet rolled out for the world to trample on? No! What it means is I must first and foremost look to God to be my rights. He is my mediator, and an apt one at that. He is able to do more in a moment than I can do with hours of screaming. But in order to have this work, I must yield my rights to Him. He then becomes my rights. When His will is my rights, then I have peace. This is very difficult to reconcile with the statement “But I’ve been wronged!” echoing through my heart.

What if most of my frustrations have been my pushing against the hand of God? Is He looking for my face to turn towards Him rather than man and myself? Are these frustrations merely invitations to bring Him in to my difficulties? And what is the outcome of His involvement over my bulldozing?

Been Wronged: These Are Not the Rights Your Looking For

Been Wronged: These Are Not the Rights Your Looking For
I went to Him the other morning and just railed about a situation. I wasn’t clean and prettied up; I was raw and angry about a company who stole money from us. I had called American Express and they could do nothing. The purchase was past the 60 day dispute window. The web firm said they wouldn’t do anything. They had our money but they no longer offered the service… so sorry. They lied to my face like Obi-Wan Kenobi – “These aren’t the droids you’re looking for…” As if I would just say, “Oh, you already fulfilled your commitment. I am due nothing.” Whatever! And I’ve been fighting this fight for months. My progress has been almost nothing, just working up my blood pressure.

After my railing to God in honesty and transparency, I felt I was to call again. Jennifer can attest that I spoke calmly and straightforwardly. Long story short, they refunded our money. Did God just want to be the source? Could I have avoided all this heartache? Probably not.

Does this mean if I go to God, He will be my bully? Will I get my way? Will He be my enforcer? No! My surrender, my following, my yielding to His will is always the work on the table. He might have just as easily said, “Let it go.” Sovereignty is a huge pill to take, but the fruitless expending of my efforts is a poisonous dose that kills my joy and life. Bowing to His Will as my rights leads to peace and fellowship with my God.

Comments:

Posted by Cindy Pollard
November 29, 2015 at 7:57 pm

Me too John! I have been wounded by pastors, wounded by the church, wounded by very close friends (more than one), wounded at the House of prayer, wounded by God Himself. He was pleased to crush His Son (Is. 53) and He is pleased to crush me too. Now that I know what He is like, will I still follow Him? So off into a wilderness place I went with Him, pursuing Him alone. Lonely, rare to fellowship with anyone but Him. After 6 months or so the revelation of Him is burning within me. HE is my streams in the desert.

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Posted by Marsela
November 26, 2015 at 10:13 pm

“… His will as my rights…”, wow, that’s profound! My only legitimate rights as far as heaven is concerned is His will for me. ” Your will be done on earth as it is in heaven” that’s how the Lord Jesus opened His mouth to prayer…. Thank you John!

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Posted by Annalie du Toit
November 26, 2015 at 10:49 am

Precious.Just precious.
xxo

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Posted by wanda
November 25, 2015 at 2:35 pm

“Though I get completely worked up with injustice and broken promises, He doesn’t seem disturbed” Boy, did I ever need this word today. Thank you John

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Posted by LA
November 25, 2015 at 12:47 pm

Thank you

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Posted by Susan
November 25, 2015 at 11:09 am

Father has taken me thru years of this in corporate and private life and in the end, after must pain and struggle, after surrender to His will is His Sabbath rest Heb 4. My private conversation with Him “if you don’t do it, it’s not happening”. For me it was always a humiliating battle to let go or not trust in my own efforts.

My heart goes out to fellow sufferers, it’s an awful crucifying of the flesh. But the exciting part is seeing God be God to us when we finally quit it. Roy Hession’s book “Calvery Road” and “We would see Jesus” offer much insight and help.
John, dear brother, go swimming, be kind to yourself. Thanks for sharing wonderful truths with us.

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Posted by Gaby
November 25, 2015 at 10:15 am

“Bowing to His Will AS my rights leads to peace and fellowship with my God.” OH, wow! When my life is His, my only right is His Will! Which basically means all right is His! But then His Will will be the best place to be for me, whether I like it right now, or not. “My surrender … is always the work on the table.” Yes, because there is a big Love behind; and because it is acknowledging the Truth! Not, because it makes me reach my goal.
Thank you for that honest and deep sharing! Lots to ponder about and very helpful!

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Posted by Sam
November 25, 2015 at 4:42 am

Praying for this…

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