In today’s post I want to share with you a conversation about parents to which I was privy. Keeping the recipient and circumstances anonymous, I have permission to share the content of this exchange. In it, Martha shares a secret about God, His choice of parents, and an attitude of heart that will lead to our successfully reaping all the fruit intended for us in the gift of our parents.
I was awestruck by the revelation and felt it fit perfectly with the path Jennifer is leading us on in this blog. I hope you are able to glean as much as I did; I don’t think I will look at my parents the same way ever again. Martha stated the following:
“You ask the wrong questions. Your questions are: ‘How do I forgive my parents, how do I survive them, how do I endure them, how do I get healed from them?’ These are the wrong questions. And because you don’t have the right question, you never have an answer. The question is, ‘What is the meaning?’ What is the meaning of my parents to me? And what is the meaning of me to my parents? What is God’s meaning in this? That is what you’re not curious about. Your parents are not the fascination; the fascination is God.
What was God enacting? What was God doing in selecting our parents for us? What was God developing? What was God’s purpose? The fascination is God Himself. It’s really not even about your parents; it’s about God. And when your heart is there, then you can go, you can fly, you can find and you will see!
You said it yourself; it’s all about knowing God. It’s knowing Him in our daily activities, but it’s also knowing Him in your parents. It’s about knowing Him. That is the mystery. That is the fascination. That is the surprise! When you find God’s meaning, then you can forgive your parents, accept them, let them be, let it be all that it is and then you will cherish them.
Ask Him, ‘Why God?’ Not in petulance, but ‘why’ for meaning and purpose. What is its meaning to me? Your discontent with your parents is not the issue; the issue is, who is Christ? What is God doing? What on earth is God doing? This is what you need: the meaning. And your parents will be the vessel of the meaning, and so you will cherish them because they are God’s vessel of the meaning.”
I sat as a third person but this spoke directly to me. I haven’t asked the meaning. I haven’t inquired of God with deep humility, “What are You after in this?” He purposed and placed together a link that holds deep treasure. I am rich beyond comprehension but have failed to ask the Key to open the chest. Foolishness, walking about like a pauper with a treasure chest full at my disposal. So ask with me today if you too are walking about empty-handed, while a treasure chest sits before you, full and untouched. “What, oh Lord, is Your meaning in the parents You chose for me?”