Why Love Grows Cold


In the end, the love of most will grow cold. Why love grows cold? What affects our love to make it run cold? Love is a hot emotion and passion is anything but frigid.  So what makes the love of most wax cold in the end times?  Oh, it’s the crafty plan of Satan, which shadows us all. In the last days, the love of most will grow cold because of the increase of evil (Matthew 24:12). And most attribute this to becoming evil. Yet I see another side of this, the cooling of our love out of frustration because we’re a daily witness to the evil.

I’m discouraged today because of my awareness of much sin.  You can’t pass through this world and not have it cling to you like a slime. Sin stinks, and as it increases, the temptation of the godly is to give in to discouragement and to lose focus.  If Satan can dim our hope and take our focus, he has us in his grasp. It becomes like a veil that skews our vision.

Understand this happens to the godliest among us. Continual seeing of sin breaks our spirits down.  Look at Moses, a godly man for sure.  In the will of God, he held the standard and delivered a nation from the hands of a tyrannical regime.  He was appointed as the judge and leader.  And in the end, the daily weight of sin buckled his faith and frustrated his resolve (Num. 20:11, 12).

Moses, a great man of faith, struck the rock rather than speaking the word.  Why? I believe it was frustration with the people he himself was called to.  The sins of many weighed down his soul one day at a time.  It was like laying stones on a thatched roof. At some point, the weight will overwhelm and crash through.

So what I am seeing is that Satan’s plan is to weigh our hearts down, slowly and undetectably, until our hearts cool and wax cold. It isn’t like passionate love gets cold overnight.  It cools by degrees over time.

So what’s the answer? Well, I know what it’s not.  For me, it’s not retreating as a monk to a holy rock pedestal, wearing a diaper on the top of a mountain. I can’t leave the world to be alone, because at the end of the day, even though I’d be freed from others, I’d still be there with all my mess.  So what is the answer? Glory!

In honest dependence, He is the only one who can lift my face.  When the weight of sin weighs down my heart and discourages my pursuit, I turn to Him. It’s not my weight to carry. It’s not my burden to bear. He’s the resolve of my heart and the hope of my walk.  I look to Him, in all my desperation, within my disheartened state, and He will take up my leaded heart and discouraged thoughts. And in the place of my weight of despair, He will reveal His weight of GLORY. Not by my demand or even desperate need, but in His faithfulness, according to His timing.

And He rescued righteous Lot, greatly worn out and distressed by the wanton ways of the ungodly and lawless—For that just man, living [there] among them, tortured his righteous soul every day with what he saw and heard of [their] unlawful and wicked deeds—
2 Peter 2:7-8 (AMP)

 “So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day. For this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison.”
2 Corinthians 4:16–17

But when one turns to the Lord, the veil is removed. Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom. And we all, with unveiled face, beholding the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from one degree of glory to another. For this comes from the Lord who is the Spirit.
 2 Corinthians 3:16–18


Posted by Susan
July 25, 2016 at 3:11 am

A lot of ‘church’ people profess to be christians these days as we gear towards The Last Days. But Christ Himself said we must ‘go into the world and make DISCIPLES of all nations….” Matt 28:19-20 (not CONVERTS). What i’ve observed is that most christians are pursuing BLESSINGS and not the BLESSOR Himself. bcoz this is what has been preached over the pulpit in many prosperity gospel churches thereby making material blessings as the benchmark of being ‘favored’ by God. this i think results to a lot of frustration and it makes them work more in order to prove something thus results to burn out and coldness. another reason i have seen is a lack of the IN-FILLING of The Holy Spirit. yes He dwells in there but not allowed nor invited to be led and filled to the overflow. the FIRE of the Holy Spirit has been quenched for lack of oil

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  • Posted by Irene
    December 19, 2013 at 8:33 am

    So much to ponder in this post and in the comments. I am ever grateful for this site where I can come to be fed and reminded that it is All of Him. I am encouraged that even in this evil environment, retail stores, tree lots, even the news decrying the war on Christmas, is proclaiming His Name: Christ. In every little town across our nation, God’s children are celebrating the birth of Christ The Savior. It keeps me mindful that He Is indeed The King of Kings, He rules and reigns right now.

    Posted by Diane Wall
    December 19, 2013 at 8:12 am

    I had never seen that about Lot being “greatly worn out”. We have experienced some of that , here in our local body. I’ve been greatly encouraged thru this word and also Tina’s comments. I’ll be sharing this with others here. Thank you John and Tina. Thank you Lord!

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  • Posted by Steve M
    December 19, 2013 at 3:57 am

    Is it not possible that what happens is not necessarily the increase of evil but rather our “focus” of our vision turns from Christ and to “the world and its corruption”. When our eye is focused on Christ all the world and the sin that abides in it is all still there but it is all faded into the background. We have not been removed from this world but rather we remain in it but because of our focused eye is upon our savior it is all background. But when we change our eye focus then he fades into the background and our focus becomes that which we have laid our eye upon. That affects what then our heart dwells and feeds on. What we yearn for is the singularity of our eyesight to be on Christ and him alone. When it strays irregardless of the amount of sin abounding around us, we are then subject to its affect.

      Posted by John Enslow
      December 19, 2013 at 8:09 am

      Yes, Steve that is precisely it. It’s all about our focus and what we’re focused upon. I so agree with your statement. But the angle I am taking this is not with the casual onlooker but the one with vesting. The one, like Moses, who was given the responsibility and became disheartened as he worked daily with the people in their rebellion. The answer is the same as you have laid out. Moses let his eye fall from God to the problem, and this is the very temptation. And when we indulge this tempt . . . our love grows cold. Thank you for your comment.

    Posted by Gaby
    December 18, 2013 at 5:34 pm

    This is just so true!
    Thank you for that note, it is a great help.
    Never seen 2 Cor.3 in that connection!

    Posted by Wanda
    December 18, 2013 at 10:51 am

    Thank you, John. I really needed that today. Thank you, Tina for your comment.

    Posted by Sam
    December 18, 2013 at 10:37 am

    Thank you John. It is a very interesting post. That the “growing cold” hearts are in the context of great evil. Yes, it is true. These times are very dangerous in every aspect, times He defined as these “it would be very easy to be mislead and deceived.” These times are such deceiving times at every corner. Survivors are to be found properly arrayed within the army of God, at the side of God. “War time fit for warriors.”

    And the amazing thing to me is that the best and most powerful warriors are babies. That not only amazes me, it just shocks mne down to the floor. Daniel was such a child in his daily life, and he is the foreshadow of those to be victors in such times as these.

    A child is without guile.


    Posted by Tina
    December 18, 2013 at 10:29 am

    Just before I read this I read a devotional message that I rarely do, but it caught my attention. It was a old message by David Wilkerson titled from Glory to Glory.
    Sharing about our need to behold the glory of the Lord daily.

    “We all, with open face beholding as in a glass the glory of the Lord, are changed into the same image from glory to glory, even as by the Spirit of the Lord” (2 Corinthians 3:18).

    “The Greek word for beholding in this verse is a very strong expression. It indicates not just taking a look, but “fixing the gaze.” It means deciding, “I won’t move from this position. Before I do anything else, before I try to accomplish a single thing, I must be in God’s presence.” D. Wilkerson.

    It is only as I remember that His grace and mercy abound when sin abounds…that all Power and authority is His and evil only a tool in His hand. Believing this requires intently focusing on the life and nature of Christ and that of His Father’s glory. It means seeing all things through His eyes and gaining His perspective in every evil manifested, whether within me or in someone close enough to cause fear to rise in my heart.

    God is either Sovereign in ALL things and in Him all things consist, and all things are made for His purpose, or I am and we are doomed.

    Father show us Your glory in the face of all the manifested evil about us and give us grace to not fear. Let our faith please you as we surrender to Your care and authority in all rejections, all troubles and trials in Jesus name.

      Posted by Sam
      December 18, 2013 at 10:38 am



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