Wow, men now feel the need to say ‘no homo’ when expressing their emotions. When I first heard the phrase “No Homo!” I recoiled. It just shocked me that we’ve come to this in our Western world. But as a man who often expresses my emotions, and sometimes has it met with a fearful blank stare, I understand adopting this phrase as a means of self-protection.
Defining No Homo
An online dictionary explains “no homo” as “a phrase used after one inadvertently says something that sounds gay.”
For instance: “Dude, you’re so awesome. No homo! Lol.”
Or: “I swear, I am so glad you are my best friend. No homo!”
Yes, male teens and young adults have largely adopted this phrase into mainstream usage. It’s a safe way of expressing yourself emotionally and not being ridiculed. Tragically, boys and men are being taught to filter their emotions through caveats. I came across the following statement on the subject by a British psychologist: “As a psychologist, I see how using the phrase has potential for allowing greater emotional expression between men.”
Well, I want to state my personal opinion on what I see as the plans of the enemy. This is nothing more than the continuation of the isolation of men and the annihilation of true manhood. Men for years have been isolated from one another. We’ve been told we are more bestial than human by the media and feminists. And most men I speak with have few, if any, friends. We are being systematically corralled, trained not to feel and not to be true men.
The most awe-inspiring men are also the ones who live out loud, men living unbridled and unhindered by fear of weaker souls’ judgment. People often gather to these men because of their confidence. But when confidence and assertiveness is actually seen in a man, there is a polarized response. Either people flock to it or try to squelch it. For most, manhood has been diabolically assaulted. Men live in fear that the small amounts of masculinity that they still have left will be crushed…hence “No Homo!”
I’ve met two men in my life who have exhibited true virility. Both were men of God and inspired confidence in me. I had a passionate love for each of them, and I believe for good reason – neither of them propped up their manhood and ego at the expense of mine. Each of them actually called forth my confidence within my openhearted receptivity of them. One was Art Katz and the other was a missionary in Guatemala named Peter Farrant. My expressed love of them was natural and received by both because they were real men. I needed no caveat to bumper my admiration of them. They received it and reciprocated.
Both of these outstanding men received and loved me with open affection. Each wanted me to come work with them. It wasn’t the Will of God, but I could have easily tied my destiny to either of them. I had plans of going to serve with Peter when he died in a scuba diving accident with his son in the Yucatan. And when I met Art, though I loved him dearly, I had been called to Martha and I wouldn’t have had it any other way.
I feel both these men died prematurely. The world needs such men! I still miss them both but I have a residual impartation of Life from each. The Life in them begat Life in me, no matter how short the time we had together. This is the nature of true manhood in Christ—LIFE.
What virile men have is the ability to carry seed. Manhood is being attacked to prevent raw life force from coming forth and effecting change. We have thousands upon thousands of men called to express Life who have been emasculated. The impotence of masculinity is a tragic sight. True manly character needs no caveat to express love. Love is Life and flows naturally. Fledgling manhood lies smoldering in the ashes of shamed masculinity and the fear of perversion. We’re so afraid of sexuality that we lop off our own manhood in fear.
As a Christian man, I will never be able to harness my sexuality through my fear of it. Flesh can’t contain what only Spirit can control. Our only safety as men of God is to abandon ourselves to our Father God who desires to direct our passions. He’s able to keep us and we’re safe only in His hands. It’s amazing that for fear of a perception of homosexuality – not even actual homosexuality – we will kill our hearts and our destiny.