Do You Know That You Are Loved? Do You Believe It?

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Do you know that you are loved? If I called you on the phone right now and asked whether you know that God loves you, what would you say? I think most, if not all, of you would say that you do know that God loves you. And that’s wonderful! But I’m not sure that’s the pertinent question to ask. What if I said, “Do you believe that you are loved?” That’s a deeper question, and it gets to the heart of the matter. There’s a big difference between knowing you are loved and believing it.

Do You Know That You Are Loved?

Do You Know That You Are Loved?
A woman I’ve known for years called me a few days ago and opened up her heart with a heartbreakingly honest admission about her life. She said that she knew that God loved her and she knew the promises in scripture, but everyday she woke up unable to shake the feeling that she was unloved. She asked me, “How can I love out of a deficit?” We prayed together and cried together and the Lord was there, but I haven’t been able to get this conversation out of my mind. Do you believe that you are loved? Or do you just know it?

Years ago I read an article explaining that handwriting size is indicative of a child’s sense of self worth. I have no idea if it’s legitimate or just speculation, but it’s interesting. Big handwriting reflects a child’s belief that they have value. Small handwriting reflects the opposite. As every child is required to write and draw in school, the teacher and parents have a psychological weathervane of the child’s state of mind AND heart readily available. But what about adults? Are we as mysterious as we think we are, or is there a weathervane shouting out our spiritual state to anyone with eyes to see?

You Are Loved but Do You BELIEVE that?

You Are Loved but Do You BELIEVE that?
What are the markers for a life lived in the belief of God’s love and not mere knowledge? Do you believe that you are loved? If so, how does your life look different from the person who, like my friend, cannot shake the feeling that they are unloved? This is what I’m wondering today. It’s what I’m asking God to show me.

If I look at your life, do I see a believer living as a child loved beyond the telling of it? If you look at me, is that what you see, too? Or are we living in the knowledge of love without believing or receiving it? Are we desperate to be filled and broken that we’re not? Or have we lived with the deficit of love for so long that it feels normal?

Do you believe that you are loved? Do I? Is God’s love evident to the world around us, or are we stuck in the knowing and running on empty?

And we have come to know AND TO BELIEVE the love that God has for us.
1 John 4:16 HCSB (emphasis mine)

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lori

Rejoicing and believing (!) yes, and thanking Him this morning In His Love … and for His Love … which is Himself, yes? His Very Self?! So grateful for your prayers – and for His … may this, from the Holy Spirit through Paul be for us all … Bless you! Bless you! Bless you ! Oh, Lord Jesus, that we may love You more! 19 [That you may really come] to know [practically, through experience for yourselves] the love of Christ, which far surpasses mere knowledge [without experience]; that you may be filled [through all your being] unto all… Read more »

Megan Graves

Jennifer, I LOVE your vulnerability here. This is a centuries long question. I think it is the reason we have self-help books and plastic surgery and hair color. Haha! Sorry, don’t mean to make light of your deeply thought provoking question. But seriously, I believe it is the reason we are constantly trying to change ourselves. In reading this post, I was desperate for the answer. I read so quickly hoping to read the “how-to” at the end. Then I realized there is no “how-to”. It’s different for each of us. Because we are all different. Like Alex, I FIGHT… Read more »

Pauline

Oh my, Jennifer, nothing easy here. My first reaction was: that’s pretty basic — of course: “the Bible tells me so.” But when I really think about this question honestly, well, it’s kind of: since God IS Love, He HAS to love me — that’s just Who He is. BUT, if He had a choice, would He? I think what He’s done gives me a little courage to believe that He does: He didn’t just die for me; He called me, chose me, gave me His robe of righteousness, set me apart for Himself, accepted me . . . that… Read more »

Rachel

Oh, Jennifer, this blesses me soooo much!!! I NEED this!

Doug

Just WOW!!!!
This is me up and down. I know God loves me, but I have been so horrible that I honestly don’t believe that He really does.

andrea

Brennan Manning has a beautiful teaching on this very question …. he wonders if at the moment we see the Lord face to face, He will ask “do you believe I love you?” and I think this is a question being asked of each of us, every moment of every day …. in the storms of life ? in the cancer diagnosis? in a betrayal? ” do you believe I love you?” ….. such a profound question …a question that can only be answered from the heart, not the head …..

Alex

The truth? I know it. I have to fight to believe it.

tammy

Wow, it would seem I could come at this question from multiple directions. As I contemplate a response my thoughts jump from one thing to another. If He leads I will come back and comment again. But, for now… God is Truth. His Word is Truth. Because He say’s HE loves me – by faith I choose to believe I am loved. Anytime I choose to believe otherwise I know it’s not Truth. It’s just my flesh believing a lie. If/when I don’t “feel” or believe I am loved, then I don’t believe God. He understands everything about me and… Read more »